Okay, I’m giving away my age here. Do you remember the old Calgon commercial where a mom has a screaming child, a phone ringing with a burning pot on the stove and she finally yells, “Calgon take me away!” I do. Do you wish you could escape to a tub of bubbles with soft music playing?
Most moms crave those moments of tranquility. Special needs mom’s would delight in a Calgon moment or two. Someone occasionally asks me, “How do you do it?” In essence asking how I raise a child with a tracheostomy and a g-tube who needs constant attention, feeding, diapering (is that a word?) and loads of love.
For me, number one is not a hot soak in a tub but lots and lots of prayer. Little prayers, like Lord, please help Samuel not fuss after dinner or bigger prayers of Lord, please help Samuel get over this allergy reaction, fast. (Big or little prayers…God hears them all…isn’t that awesome.) Then there are the hundreds of prayer requests I send to my friends. They are so gracious and kind to love on my son through prayer.
I’m also blessed to have an amazing husband who helps me take a moment away when I need it. Today, while Ralph and Samuel hung out in the office, I spent a few minutes sitting by the lake. I heard fish jumping, saw the wind blowing through the trees and enjoyed the serenity of the moment. I almost felt guilty enjoying the moment. Almost.
Kylie Merriam has good reason to feel the need for a good Calgon moment. Her son has 22q11.2 Deletion Syndrome which has caused a congenital heart defect, airway defects, congenital diaphragmatic hernia and bronchopulmonary dysplasia. Judah has had several procedures in his seven and a half months in the hospital including two open heart surgeries.
When Kylie was asked “How do you do it?”, she posted this: Honestly…I don’t
do it. God does it for me. Daily, I remind myself that He is in control and He is good…so what He is allowing to happen to my baby is good…even though it looks terrible to me. Who knows the ripple effect does (comes) from this? How many people will be touched? How many souls saved? When I keep my focus above, I have good days, and I notice when I neglect prayer and I neglect time in His word, I get irritable, sad and lonely and I just want to give up. Look above.
The next time I feel the need for a peaceful moment, I think I’ll take Kylie’s advice. Look above. Add a prayer, time reading the Psalms and perhaps even a bath. Thanks, Calgon.
Share how you find solace in a busy world?
By Evelyn Mann
Author, A Miracle In My Living Room