Have you ever seen a special needs mom and thought, How does she do it? I could never do it myself. You walk away thinking she is a super hero. But if you had a conversation with her, she’d probably disagree. She’d say, “I am not super human, I’m just a mom.”
And here is the secret to connecting with a special needs mom; we have the same title: mom. We both have diapered, fed, cuddled and loved on our kids. We both do our best to keep our little ones alive, happy, and safe. We both celebrate a sleeping child at the end of the day. We both rejoice when we’ve made it through another 24 hours.
So how can you connect with a special needs mom? Here are three suggestions.
Tell the mom what a great job she is doing. An uplifting word has tremendous power. We were at a restaurant when approached by a dad who complimented us on doing a great job of raising our son, Samuel. We then found out he had several children of his own… many who were adopted. Yet, he admired us as parents.
He thought we had a hard job because Samuel has special needs. But we marveled at his parenting so many well adjusted, kind, respectful kids. It’s all about perspective.
His words encouraged and invigorated us.
Sharing Your Experience:
Tell a story of something that helped your child. When my son had the flu, I shared it on Facebook. One friend suggested Mucinex another recommended a humidifier and Colloidal Silver.
My mommy friends shared their experiences, reached out and offered tips to help Samuel get well. They shared what worked for them. They are not special needs moms, but sharing their mommy stories helped me raise mine.
Use your curiosity to connect with a special needs mom. Over the years we have had many people ask us questions when we are in public. I appreciate questions because it gives me an opportunity to educate and inspire others through Samuel’s miracle story of survival from a lethal form of dwarfism. I also love talking about my son…what mom doesn’t?
A great question to ask could be, “How old is he?” And after a bit of conversation, another great question is, “What is his diagnosis.” Avoid questions like, “What is wrong with your child?” Or, “What does he have?”
At the end of the day, there are many commonalities we moms have with each other. As mothers we all encounter fear, worry, stress, joy, and happiness to name a few. Find areas where your motherhood journeys intersect. We are more alike than we realize. These are just a few ways to connect, encourage and uplift.We are more alike than we realize. Click To Tweet
Have you ever met a special needs mom? How did you connect? Share your story in the comments below. I’d love to hear it. I read each one.
Written by Evelyn Mann
Author, Miracle In My Living Room: The Story of a Little Mann