Helping My Non Verbal Child Be Happy

Waiting for Honey Oaties

Waking up in a hotel room this morning, an out of routine place, Samuel started early.  His constant sounds demanding cereal won’t let us rest. Ralph distracted him with a couple of stroller rides but we finally pulled out the goods, much to Samuel’s delight. Our routine time for cereal snacks is between 3 – 5pm.  Not today, 10am.

Rain pelts the outside of the van. As I finished feeding lunch to our little guy, I silently wonder how we are going to make it through the wedding ceremony.  He has been so fussy. I’d hate to leave the sanctuary if Samuel gets too loud, but I’m prepared to so for the couples sake and the sake of the guests.

The rain stops as we push to the stroller into the hallway of the worship center. I turn to Ralph, “Did you bring the cereal?”

He shakes his head. “No.”

That just won’t do. I have to go back to the van and get our ace in the hole, Samuel’s cereal. Ralph waits with Samuel in the air conditioning while I rush back to the van, trying not to slip on the newly fallen rain. Opening the sliding door I slip in seeing the bag of Three Sisters Honey Oaties right away. How am I going to hide it from Samuel? If he sees it, he’ll want one. A plastic bag sits between the seats. I grab it and stuff the cereal inside. Now I am ready to go back.

Don't Leave Home Without It
Don’t Leave Home Without It

Ralph is talking to a friend when I walk in. Samuel can’t see me because his stroller is faced the other way. I take the opportunity to sneak the cereal underneath the stroller before he is any wiser. Success! He is distracted by all the activity humming around him. We enter the sanctuary and Samuel is silent for the first time today.

The ceremony commences, as Samuel bounces in his bouncer. He is content. The only sound I hear is the squeaking of his bouncer. He is looking up at the rafters above him. It’s as if he understands this is church, even though he’s not been here before. It’s routine we go to church once a week at home. Routine, he understands. And possibility craves. Knowing what is going to happen next because he can’t ask me, “Mommy, what are we doing? Where are we going?”

Suddenly I hear a child’s cry. I look at Samuel. He’s happily savoring his pacifier. Looking over my shoulder, I see a child in a stroller. The father is shooshing his son. Relieved, I turn to Ralph whispering, “It’s not Samuel.”

Our son is a perfect angel during the whole service. We leave triumphant. We didn’t even need to resort to doling out cereal. What have I learned today? Our son loves routine and cereal. Which one does he love more? Too hard to say. Suffice it say, we will not leave the house without his bag of Three Sisters, Honey Oaties.

Can you relate? Would love to hear your story.

Written by Evelyn Mann

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5 Thoughts on Helping My Non Verbal Child Be Happy

  1. Life is precious! Things are so much more so if we can see how each day as a gift when to others our lives may seem like a hardship. It’s not the life, it’s the moments. Of course there are difficulties and many uncertainties, a lot! But being able to see the beauties, the gratefulness in each good moment or day, appreciate the smallest moment for the enormous gift it truly it is, that is truly living life to its fullest.

    • Well said, Tracy. Seeing Samuel content, smiling and happy fills my heart with joy. Remembering to be in the moment and enjoying these treasures is challenging in our busy day but oh, so worth it. Thanks for your comments and following our little guy. I enjoy following your posts about Katia too.

  2. First off I would like to say wonderful blog!
    I had a quick question in which I’d like to ask if you do not mind.
    I was curious to find out how you center yourself and clear your mind before writing.
    I have had trouble clearing my thoughts in getting my ideas out.
    I truly do enjoy writing however it just seems like the first 10
    to 15 minutes are generally lost simply just trying to figure out how to begin. Any recommendations or tips?
    Many thanks!

    • I just start writing. Even if you won’t keep the first paragraph, write something. Try to build on it. You can always delete and edit later. Hope that helps.

  3. Samuel’s face is adorable! I can almost hear him say the line from The Musical Oliver: “Please sir, may I have some more?”


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